8 Things To Let Go Of Right Now

Sometimes we just need to say f*ck it to a few things in life. Today I may have needed this reminder/pep talk/love note more than anything, and I think we could all use a little letting go, starting with these 8:

1. Judgement

Because if we are judging one another, can we ever actually love ourselves? I once read that in order to make an actual fair judgment you would have to know a person's past, present, and future. If that is basically impossible, then in theory fair judgment doesn't exist to us. Imma leave it at that. 

2. Tension

Take a belly breathe. Release the tension in your tummy, your neck, notice if your shoulders are scrunched by your ears. Breathe again and release the tension. Carry on...

3. Perfection

NO I CANNOT PUBLISH THIS POST UNTIL THE TITLE NO LONGER ENDS IN A PREPOSITION. It has to be PERFECT, dammit (this was the battle I had with my perfectionism whilst writing this post). Let it go. Embrace the imperfections because if it were perfect a. you're lying to yourself because nothing truly perfect so all that time you're spending on things being perfect is really for nada and b. perfect tends to be not so special anywhoo. And I love your imperfectness.

4. The fear of starting

This is perfectionism + procrastination's 3rd lover. If you're fearful of starting something, just start it. Follow your fear. Get the words on the page. Take a step and you'll figure it out as you go. As Yogi Bajan says, "When the time is on you start, and the pressure will be off." 

5. The past

Because what you're ruminating about got you to the place that you are today. Thank it for moving you forward in some shape or form and know that your time is too precious to spend it dwelling on what you cannot change!

6. That one person who bugs the CRAP out of you

Annoyance and anger don't feel good. Let it go for the sake of yourself and open to the possibility of oneness.  Eventually if we hold onto anger and resentment, it will show up in our bodies and that is no bueno. Send love to them as you send love to yourself. We're all just humans trynna make it out here. 

7. The fear of rejection

Ouch. That's tough. It doesn't feel good, but in reality its another blessing. Its a sign that this path you were about to go down was not the way for you, at least not right now. Thank the rejection, love it, and let it go. 

8. The love you think you need

Focus on giving love. Giving to yourself, most importantly. And giving to others without the expectation of receiving. Giving just because it feels good to give love.

And to top it all off I hope you enjoy this vid of Channing Tatum reminding you to let it go it the most wonderful of ways:


XXo Stef 

Turn Your Pain Into Power


Why here?

Why now?

Why me?

Why us?

What is pain?

Is pain permanent? Is it temporary?

When will it end?


We are not born here to feel a life of pain. It is so foreign to our natural state of pure being, yet we are surrounded by it. It is so unnatural to our truth, but it is here anyways.  

Pain is here for a purpose, not permanence.

Pain is a learning state.

Pain is here to teach us the parts that we must still heal. Pain is here to teach us the parts that we need to forgive.

Pain is her to be the signal that change is needed, and needed now.

Pain goes deeper and deeper until we finally awaken to the reality that it is our call to action.

Pain is here for a purpose, not for permanence.

Pain is here to teach us what we do not want in our lives, in society, in our environment, so that we can consciously make a change toward the thoughts, actions, and perspectives that we do want for our society.

Pain is the signal that we must see whoever has hurt us as ourselves. It shows us that no matter what happens, we must forgive and we must come together as one in order to heal. 

Pain is pain is pain is pain.

It all serves the same purpose.

Love is love is love is love.

Pain is here to point us back to love.

Pain is here to empower us into change.

Sometimes we fear pain, sometimes it drives us to our knees, sometimes it breaks us down and we shout, Why are you here?

But pain is here to teach us. Pain is here to show us that there are parts left unsaid and unhealed. There are parts of ourselves, our country, and our society that are left unheard. This pain is our call to action.

Use your pain as your reason for shifting your perspective, for opening up to oneness, for being able to see your neighbor as yourself.

Instead of shutting down in times of pain, we must endure and ask, "What is it that I am to learn from this?"

Pain is here for a purpose, not for permanence.

Take pain and use it as your catalyst for change.




How Your Words Affect Your Vibes

I think we have a problem. JK not a problem, but rather a habit that might need a little breaking. I think that we have made a habit out of putting ourselves down. 

"I am an idiot"  "I'm so stupid" "I am so difficult" "I am __(<<<<insert negative thing about ourselves)."

OUCH. ^^^ Daggers, DAGGERS to my heart I tell you! (not an exaggeration at all)

But these sort of sayings feel familiar, ya? These negative *I AM*s have become so commonplace that its like we are expected to say bad things about ourselves and especially as girls, its might even be considered weird if we don't find something wrong with ourselves (ahem, Mean Girls scene). BUT ITS NOT SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE THAT YO. We are made to be Cady's NOT Regina's!! 

Mean girls aside, that self-talk (even if its just in our thoughts) has more power than we think, and the negative *I AM*s come with a not-so-awesome side effect.  

What we put out into the world comes right back to us.

And then sometimes we follow with, "Well I'm just kidding." 

That doesn't matter. 

What we say we are, we are. End of story. That's how manifestation works!!

This is especially important when we use the words "I AM" to preface some sort of thing.

These little "I Ams" are basically big-time prayers out to the Universe to bring whatever we say that we are back to us. If you say you are overweight, guess what? Calories will find their way to you. If we say we are beautiful and divine, then guess what? Divine feelings will find their way to you, and your world will be filled with more beauty. We can use our words as blessings to bring everything we want and more into our universe, or we can use them to pull in the exact things that we don't want. If this sounds crazy, its not. :) 

What follows is a extremely controlled and very professional scientific experiment to explain the point:

We shall start by reading list A:

I am terrible.

I am stupid.

I am not worthy of good friends.

I am so ugly.

I am not loved and never will be.

I am always lonely. 

I am so angry. 

Now read list B pls:

I am wonderful. 

I am safe.

I am beautiful.

I am strong.

I am at peace.

I am a divine creation.

I am always guided and on my path.

I am change. 

I am powerful.

I am love.

Did ya feel any difference reading the to lists?

I know it may feel silly reading or saying these thing about ourselves (and you may not even believe them), but its crazy how powerful words have over the way we feel and we don't even realize it! Personally, I felt like I needed an epsom salt + baking soda detox bath after writing the first one. It felt heavy, and I felt so sad and dragged down writing the first. But writing the second, oh baby that was MAGIC. I felt so much lighter and happier and wonderful.

The truth of the matter is that even if you don't completely believe in what you are saying, THEY STILL WORK, and the more we get in the habit of saying wonderful things about ourselves, the more we experience wonderful things about ourselves. We have all of the knowledge, qualities, and things that we desire already within us, but its up to our own selves to tap into this endless creative potential. 


Make a list of powerful declarations every night before bed - no matter how uncomfy it feels. Here's a list to get started:

  • I am powerful. I am confident. I am strong.
  • I am forgiven. I am grace. I am Divine.
  • I am attractive. I am beautiful. I am grace.
  • I am worthy. I am loved. I am independent.
  • I am smart. I am guided. I am empowered.
  • I am inspired. I am creative. I am motivated. I am passionate.

This EXTREMELY powerful and healing at night bc what you think about the last five minutes before sleep is what your subconscious dwells on during your sleep -  so now your subconscious is put to work calling in all of these wonderful things to come forth within you while you sleep! 

I also use this practice when I catch myself talking negatively about myself - I just mentally recite a list of the gracious and wonderful qualities in me to correct and switch the vibration.

And a side note: it's not that we are bad people when we catch ourselves saying things like "I am so f*cking annoyed" or " I am not worthy of attention" or what have you-- I still catch myself all the time. But it IS important to have the awareness of the power of our words and to use them as TEACHERS so that we can feel the difference when we put good things into the world rather than things that we don't want. When we ask for what we DO want, we have the power to uplift and empower ourselves and manifest freaking amazing magic in our lives. 

If you want to get to work CHANGING YOUR LIFE, it starts with the way you feel, and the way you feel starts with your words (whether thought or spoken). And in order to change anything in the world and spread a little peace, I think we need every little bit of good vibes to go around. 

So much love and endless gratitude to you earthly beings,


5 Ways to Raise Your Vibration Right Now

Edit: to my silly mom/anyone else not in with the lingo - RN does not mean Registered Nurse, it means right now. Carry on!

Last Friday I posted about things that made me happy, and you know why these things made me happy? There’s a simple principle behind all this happy stuff: VIBRATION.

Basically, no matter if you are a scientist or a weirdo-spiritualist like moi, we can all agree that all matter (aka EVERYTHING +  YOU) is made of energy, yeah?

And all of that energy is then vibrating at different frequencies.

And then there are two options (really there are many more but for a super duper simple version we’ll stick to two options):

Your energy can vibrate at a low frequency.

Aka you maybe wake up in a bad mood, then spill your coffee all over your car, get stuck in traffic, and then get slammed with a huge workload, get upset at your homies, etc., etc. you get it. You feel like you can’t catch a break and that a ton of things just go “wrong.”


Your energy can vibrate at a high frequency.

This is when things feel like they’re flowing. This is like when you have a day where you just feel like everything is going your way, or maybe that you’re just simply happy. Other people may feel attracted to you or notice your good vibes and flock your way. Basically, Joy feeds joy and its just a whole cloud of happiness flow.

So basically:

Happiness/Joy = high vibration = attract more high vibes = FLOW

Sadness/Anger/Frustration = lower vibration = attract more lower vibes

And sometimes when low vibes get the best of us, it may feel like its time to just throw the towel and accept that we are just doomed to have a bunch of shitty things happen and might as well hold on bc its not going to get better.

BUT, let me tell you the secret; this doesn’t HAVE to happen.

What we really want to do is know how to become aware of the lower vibes and then use things to CHANGE the vibration before we go down a spiral of not-so-good things.

Here are a few go-tos raise yo vibration (and thus more good things in life):

1. Dance - In no way am I a GOOD dancer, no no (in fact, my mom pulled me out of dance bc I “couldn’t keep up” in tap class.. and that was the end of my dancing career). Moving the body freely is an amazing way to honor your body and show it the love it deserves. It literally shakes up your energy and allows any stuckness to be freed. Tbh, one of the things I miss most about living in the dorms is not having someone to complete my random dance parties literally 2 steps away from me at all times. But HEY all you need is your body and music (I mean music is optional but makes the experience much more pleasurable right?). And if you “don’t dance,”start with one song, or even just 30 seconds of car dancing and you too can have the good vibes of Bey.

2Take a baking soda and sea salt bath. Sometimes when we encounter other people’s energies throughout the day, we carry negative vibes around that don’t belong to us. Maybe you’ve been working around a negative-nelly all day or are just feeling tired and worn-out in general. Whatever it is, BATHE IT. Baths in general feel so good and cleansing, but along with your bubbles and bath bombs, throw in

1 cup baking soda + 1 cup sea salt

for an aura-cleansing treatment. This magical combo cleanses your energetic feild of all that extra stuff you amy be carrying around, and draws out toxins from the body. Try to stay in 20 minutes (or an hour if you accidentally fall asleep like me) and when you pull the plug, imagine any negativity and toxins that no longer serve you being drawn out along with the water as it washes down the drain. Voila! YOU are a new person! (I am typing this as my bath is running upstairs I REALLY LOVE MY BATHS)  

Mhm Oprah knows what's up.

Mhm Oprah knows what's up.

3. Put your bare feet in the grass. Yes… I am  that crazy person in the park who stops mid-run to take off my shoes and put my back against a tree. Don’t worry, middle-aged man walking past me and staring strangely, I am a ok just grounding myself don’t worry. But honestly IT WORKS. Mother Earth is the most powerful grounding force around, so why not let her do her thing? Try standing with your bare feet in the ground. Or put your back against a tree. And breatheeee.

    This is just too cool.

    This is just too cool.

    1. HUG SOMEONE. As much as we want to think that we’re strong, independent women (or men) who don’t need nobody… we do. We are social beings and our bodies are meant to connect with other people. I’m not really sure what it is about hugs (but there have been a million and one studies if you really want the science read here) but they boost those positive feel-good vibes and calm the nervous system. So, I don’t care if its the lady you just bought makeup from (srsly my mom just did this yesterday) or your best friend, lover, or mom - HUG THEM.

    And please, please, not the wimpy side-arm hug,


    or the I-really-don’t-want-to-hug-you-so-I’m-going-to-stay- six-inches-away-from-you hug.


    Of course Beyonce gives good hugs.&nbsp;

    Of course Beyonce gives good hugs. 


    5. List 5 things you’re grateful for. Ready set go.

    1. My pups

    2. Sunshine

    3. Yoga pants

    4. Rose quartz

    5. Momma’s morning hug

    And yes, I know these seem super duper simple and like they wouldn’t actually make a difference but, trust me, your vibes are sensitive little things and they don’t lie. Just getting in the vibration of other good things helps to soften negative things and allow for major shifts. AND when we feel good (which is really what its all about) we attract more good things, people ENJOY being around us, and we just feel like we’re in the flow of life so why not focus on staying in a high-vibration place?

    Until next time <3

    Much love,


    Bonus: 6. Get a Unicorn pool float bc…. I mean come on, just looking at this thing how can you NOT instantly be happy?