Surrender [suh-ren-der] (verb):
- to give control or use (of something) to someone else.
- to give up, abandon, or relinquish.
- to give oneself up, as into the power of another; submit or yield.
In looking at all of these definitions grouped together, it feels passive, dark, and heavy. There are hints of power struggles and dominant-submissive relationships that all just feel like thick gunk. In this day and age of rah-rah girl power and pushing for independence, it seems like the last thing we want to do is something that even remotely sounds like “giving up.” But in actuality, what we need to look at is redefining how we think of surrender.
In reality, to surrender is a beautiful thing, and not passive at all.
To surrender is to let go.
To surrender is to free yourself of the worries, doubts, and midnight racing thoughts that keep our minds running in circles at night.
To surrender is to be free.
To surrender is to let go of what we think our own plans are, to let go of the control that we think we NEED in our lives, and to give it up to the universe. To surrender is not to “give up,” but to know that there is a plan for us, something greater than ourselves that is guiding us to the next right step. To surrender is to TRUST in life.
To surrender is to be comfortable with not knowing.
In controlling tomorrow, the next month, and the next day and pushing, pushing, pushing to meet the next goal, it can seem like we are struggling to swim up-stream and in this struggle we may lose the beauty of life.
But to surrender is to stop trying to push against the current, and to allow the current to carry us forward. We relax… and we float.
To surrender is that moment when I lay on my back; palms open to the universe, take a deep breath, and release what I thought I needed to get done in a day but didn’t, release the resentment towards that one person, release the need to micro-manage the next step in my life and plan out every single detail.
Don’t get me wrong, I know that there’s a time and place for knowing what’s going to happen next, but sometimes it is in releasing those plans that the most magnificent and magical things actually happen. Its when we let go of trying to control what our future is going to look like, whether in terms of a career, what you’re going to eat for breakfast tomorrow, or our dream person that we’re going to marry, that miracles effortlessly happen.
To surrender is not to be passive at all. In fact, it is quite opposite; because in this opening, the greatest transformation occurs. We surrender what was, and we surrender to what is, accepting this current moment in all of its allness, rawness, and beauty. To surrender is to believe I am always in the right place at the exact right time, and I am always guided with the next step.
To surrender is to get quiet, to finally listen, and to flow with whatever life brings next.
So, what are you going to surrender today?