I think we have a problem. JK not a problem, but rather a habit that might need a little breaking. I think that we have made a habit out of putting ourselves down.
"I am an idiot" "I'm so stupid" "I am so difficult" "I am __(<<<<insert negative thing about ourselves)."
OUCH. ^^^ Daggers, DAGGERS to my heart I tell you! (not an exaggeration at all)
But these sort of sayings feel familiar, ya? These negative *I AM*s have become so commonplace that its like we are expected to say bad things about ourselves and especially as girls, its might even be considered weird if we don't find something wrong with ourselves (ahem, Mean Girls scene). BUT ITS NOT SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE THAT YO. We are made to be Cady's NOT Regina's!!
Mean girls aside, that self-talk (even if its just in our thoughts) has more power than we think, and the negative *I AM*s come with a not-so-awesome side effect.
What we put out into the world comes right back to us.
And then sometimes we follow with, "Well I'm just kidding."
That doesn't matter.
What we say we are, we are. End of story. That's how manifestation works!!
This is especially important when we use the words "I AM" to preface some sort of thing.
These little "I Ams" are basically big-time prayers out to the Universe to bring whatever we say that we are back to us. If you say you are overweight, guess what? Calories will find their way to you. If we say we are beautiful and divine, then guess what? Divine feelings will find their way to you, and your world will be filled with more beauty. We can use our words as blessings to bring everything we want and more into our universe, or we can use them to pull in the exact things that we don't want. If this sounds crazy, its not. :)
What follows is a extremely controlled and very professional scientific experiment to explain the point:
We shall start by reading list A:
I am terrible.
I am stupid.
I am not worthy of good friends.
I am so ugly.
I am not loved and never will be.
I am always lonely.
I am so angry.
Now read list B pls:
I am wonderful.
I am safe.
I am beautiful.
I am strong.
I am at peace.
I am a divine creation.
I am always guided and on my path.
I am change.
I am powerful.
I am love.
Did ya feel any difference reading the to lists?
I know it may feel silly reading or saying these thing about ourselves (and you may not even believe them), but its crazy how powerful words have over the way we feel and we don't even realize it! Personally, I felt like I needed an epsom salt + baking soda detox bath after writing the first one. It felt heavy, and I felt so sad and dragged down writing the first. But writing the second, oh baby that was MAGIC. I felt so much lighter and happier and wonderful.
The truth of the matter is that even if you don't completely believe in what you are saying, THEY STILL WORK, and the more we get in the habit of saying wonderful things about ourselves, the more we experience wonderful things about ourselves. We have all of the knowledge, qualities, and things that we desire already within us, but its up to our own selves to tap into this endless creative potential.
NIGHTLY PRACTICE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE:
Make a list of powerful declarations every night before bed - no matter how uncomfy it feels. Here's a list to get started:
- I am powerful. I am confident. I am strong.
- I am forgiven. I am grace. I am Divine.
- I am attractive. I am beautiful. I am grace.
- I am worthy. I am loved. I am independent.
- I am smart. I am guided. I am empowered.
- I am inspired. I am creative. I am motivated. I am passionate.
This EXTREMELY powerful and healing at night bc what you think about the last five minutes before sleep is what your subconscious dwells on during your sleep - so now your subconscious is put to work calling in all of these wonderful things to come forth within you while you sleep!
I also use this practice when I catch myself talking negatively about myself - I just mentally recite a list of the gracious and wonderful qualities in me to correct and switch the vibration.
And a side note: it's not that we are bad people when we catch ourselves saying things like "I am so f*cking annoyed" or " I am not worthy of attention" or what have you-- I still catch myself all the time. But it IS important to have the awareness of the power of our words and to use them as TEACHERS so that we can feel the difference when we put good things into the world rather than things that we don't want. When we ask for what we DO want, we have the power to uplift and empower ourselves and manifest freaking amazing magic in our lives.
If you want to get to work CHANGING YOUR LIFE, it starts with the way you feel, and the way you feel starts with your words (whether thought or spoken). And in order to change anything in the world and spread a little peace, I think we need every little bit of good vibes to go around.
So much love and endless gratitude to you earthly beings,